Second, because this is not a Mother's Day wish for the mothers who fit the Hallmark mold. No offense or anything, because I am one of those mothers, too. It isn't because I don't think we deserve it because we do! But Hallmark and pretty much every retail store in this nation has recognized us until we have it coming out of our... well, you know. Most likely our children and/or husband/significant other made us breakfast and bought us flowers and celebrated all that we do on a daily basis. Most likely we smiled and cried happy tears when we read the Hallmark cards they bought us with their own personal loving messages. And most likely we went to bed with happy hearts and full arms last night.
So instead I would like to wish a Happy Mother's Day to those women whom Hallmark unfortunately overlooks. (Not that I'm doing a great job making up for it being a day late!)
Women who carried, cared for, and loved their babies for 9 months, endured the pain of bringing them into the world, continue carrying them in their hearts, and place them in the loving arms of a couple who couldn't carry a child of their own.
Women who carried, cared for, and loved their babies for anywhere from a matter of weeks to a matter of months before those precious children were called back home to Heaven.
Women who have endured unimaginable pain, invasive procedures, impersonal and or incompetent doctors, months, years, DECADES of waiting and watching innumerable women's growing bellies and baby showers but never get to see that illusive creature... those two parallel or perpendicular lines on a pregnancy test.
Women with special needs children that require every ounce of energy, love, and attention that they have to offer but still wake up every morning to put on her boxing gloves to fight for the rights, recognition and treatment that her children deserve.
These women work so hard, make amazing sacrifices for the benefit of others, and suffer unimaginable pain and yet there is not a section in the Mother's Day cards dedicated to them. So here is my Mother's Day card to them. Because I love each and every one of them. They have taught me so much and have given me so much. Without them I wouldn't be able to fit the Hallmark mold this Mother's Day.
"You say you want a revolution
Well you know
We all want to change the world"
"You ask me for a contribution
Well you know
We're all doing what we can."
~Lennon/McCartney
Dedicated to Angie, Rhiannon, Devika, Faith, Jodi, Jane, Dana, Tiffany, Jordanna, Ruth, Jenni and all the rest of you that are "doing what [you] can" and inspire me daily :)
4 comments:
Aww thanks! Mother's Day still brings up a lot of icky emotions for me even though I'm thrilled to finally be a Mom and it makes me feel sad for all those women who haven't yet become moms even though they so badly long to be one. I still flinch around statements people make about Mother's Day even though God has given me two little miracles. I keep hoping some day you'll see those two lines you long to see...
Happy Mother's Day to you too :) You speak (or type) such beautiful words, and you say what is in my heart as well, I just can't find the words.
Here is to you and your husband, your beautiful child, and your future children.
Wow, thank you Jill. That is so sweet. You really do write so well, beautiful.
Thank you, Jill, for such a beautiful post. And for the dedication. I am honored. I will try to post about the candles soon...it is actually all one candle, the small stacks on the tall one. It has a quote about a lost loved one, not specific to children, but specific enough. I got it at a random candle store in my town, but I'll see if I can find a brand. I plan to post tomorrow and will try to remember to say something about the candles...you weren't the only one who asked:). Thanks again, Jill.
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